You were someone before all this. This weekend we go find them.

A faith based weekend course for spouses and partners of people battling addiction. Four lessons. Real healing. Starting now.

You have been doing everything right.

You have loved them faithfully. You have prayed without ceasing. You have held the family together, managed the chaos, covered for them more times than you can count, and smiled through Sundays when Saturday night was the worst night of the week.

And still — nothing has changed.

But here is what nobody is talking about.

While you have been focused entirely on their recovery — you have been quietly disappearing.

You stopped having opinions about things. You stopped dreaming. You stopped knowing what you wanted because you spent so long pretending it did not matter. You organized your entire life around someone else's chaos and somewhere in the middle of all of it — you lost yourself completely.

You googled things at 2am you would never say out loud. You cried in your car in a parking lot and called it a moment of weakness when really it was the only place you felt safe enough to fall apart. You felt abandoned by God and too ashamed to admit it even in prayer.

And through all of it you kept asking the same question.

When does it get better?

Here is the answer nobody gave you —

It gets better when you stop waiting for them to get better first.

There is another way through this

Here's what's inside...

What if this weekend you stopped waiting?

What if instead of putting your healing on hold until they get sober — until things calm down — until the kids are okay — you decided that your healing starts now?

Not because you are giving up on them. Not because you are walking away from your vow. Not because you have stopped loving them.

But because God never asked you to disappear in the process of loving someone else.

He sees you right now. Not the performance version of you. Not the one who holds everything together and smiles through Sundays. The real you. The exhausted, grieving, barely holding on version of you.

And He is not waiting for your circumstances to change before He moves in your life.

He is moving right now.

In the 2am moments. In the parking lot. In the silence after another broken promise.

He has been right there the whole time.

And here is what I know after walking this road myself and alongside hundreds of people just like you —

Your healing does not wait for theirs.

Your identity in Christ is not on hold because their recovery is on hold. You are still His. You are still seen. You are still being shaped into someone — right now — in the middle of all of this.

You were someone before all this happened.

And that person is still in there.

Just waiting for permission to come back.

This weekend — we give them that permission.

Why I built this course

"You Are Not Lost- A Weekend Course To Find Yourself"

My name is Steve. And I know exactly where you are right now.

For 13 years I was married to an addict. I was determined to fix it. I clung to hope — hope that she would stop, hope that I could somehow save her and our marriage. I tried being patient. I tried being firm. I prayed every prayer I knew how to pray.

Nothing changed.

And here is what made it even harder —

I was a pastor. Hiding all of it from the world. My marriage was my dirty little secret. I had no one to talk to, no direction, and — though it was hard to admit — I felt completely abandoned by God.

Then everything changed.

I discovered I was not just stuck because of her addiction. I was stuck because of my own codependency. Wounds that went all the way back to my childhood. I was broken long before my marriage. Her addiction only magnified what was already there.

Through years of hard work, healing, and God's grace — my life transformed.

Today I am back in ministry with a renewed purpose. To walk alongside people just like you. People who feel stuck, overwhelmed, and unsure of where to turn. People who have been so focused on someone else's recovery that they forgot they needed one too.

I built this course because I wished someone had built it for me.

Every lesson. Every word. Every worksheet.

It all came out of my own journey toward healing and my years of walking alongside people in exactly your situation.

This is not a self help program dressed up in Christian language.

This is one person who has been in the trenches handing another person everything he wishes he had known.

You do not have to figure this out alone. I already did that part for you.

Here is what we cover this weekend

This is not a lecture series. This is a guided journey — four lessons designed to take you from survival mode to healing, one honest step at a time.

  • Lesson 1 — You Are Not the Problem. But You Are the Solution. We start by naming the pattern honestly and without shame. You will identify the codependency cycle that has been running your life, count the cost of what it has taken from you, and take your first steps toward separating who you are from what you have been living through.

  • Lesson 2 — The Fixer Was Never Your Job. Here we get honest about when love became fixing — and why it has not worked. You will discover why your fixing has not just hurt you but has actually delayed the very thing you have been praying for. And you will begin the process of putting down what was never yours to carry.

  • Lesson 3 — You Have Permission to Have Needs. This lesson gives you something nobody may have ever given you before — permission. Permission to have needs. Permission to grieve. Permission to set boundaries without guilt or fear. And a completely new understanding of what a boundary actually is and why it is one of the most Christlike things you can do.

  • Lesson 4 — You Were Someone Before All This. This is the heart of the entire weekend. We replace the story addiction told you about yourself with the story God has been telling all along. You will grieve what this has taken from you, hear who God says you are, and take your first real steps toward reclaiming yourself — not someday, not after they get better, but now.

  • Every lesson includes:

    • A short focused teaching video from Steve

    • A guided worksheet to move the truth from your head into your heart

    • A scripture anchor to stand on when the hard days come

    • Practical steps you can take immediately

Four lessons. One weekend. A completely different relationship with yourself on the other side.

What changes after this weekend

This is not about information. You have probably read the books and listened to the podcasts and know more about codependency than you ever wanted to know.

This is about transformation.

Here is what is different on the other side of this weekend:

  • You stop carrying what was never yours. You walk away with a clear understanding of where your responsibility ends and theirs begins. The weight you have been bent under for years — you finally know how to put it down. Not perfectly. Not all at once. But you know it is not yours to carry and you have the tools to start releasing it.

  • You have permission you did not have before. Permission to have needs. Permission to grieve. Permission to heal right now — not after they get better. Permission to set boundaries without guilt. Permission to want something for yourself. That permission changes everything.

  • You have scripture to stand on. When the hard days come — and they will — you have four verses anchored in your heart that speak directly to where you are. Truth that holds you when everything around you feels unsteady.

  • You are not alone anymore.

    You finish this weekend with an invitation into a community of people who understand your life without explanation. People who have been in the trenches. People who are finding their way through. People who will walk the road ahead with you.

You came in exhausted and invisible. You leave seen, equipped, and finally moving forward.

Your investment in yourself

 One therapy session averages $150 to $200 and covers a fraction of what this weekend does. This course is less than that. And it is yours to keep forever.

You Are Not Lost- A Weekend Course To Finding Yourself

Satisfaction based: If you show up, do the work, and genuinely feel this course did not deliver — reach out within 7 days with your completed worksheets and I will refund every dollar.

Requiring the completed worksheets protects you completely. Someone who did all four worksheets genuinely engaged with the material. And someone who genuinely engaged almost never asks for a refund.

100% risk free - 7 day money back guarantee

Here's what you get:

  • Video/read along modules in four lessons with over 22 parts.

  • Four deep self reflection guided worksheets — one for every lesson

  • Scripture anchors to carry with you beyond the weekend

  • Lifetime access — go back whenever you need it

Less than one therapy session. More than you have gotten from years of going it alone.

Total value: $200

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You were someone before all this.

You are still that person.

And this weekend — we go find them together.

Still have questions? Book a free 30 minute call and let's talk through where you are and whether this weekend course is the right next step for you.